My mother and I are together all weekend (lord of the rings marathon), we have plenty of time to answer all of your questions. We will also be writing a post about STIs/STDs!
Talk to you soon lovelies,
Hey, just wondering when is about the age where you should start going to a gynecologist? Also, what is the process when you go?
Anyone considering sexual activity should see a Gynecologist right away-not to be judged, to be prepared and protected. Once you are sexually active, you not only need contraception;you also need to be screened for sexually transmitted infections. If you are having period problems or pain ar have any other concerns, Gynecologists are happy to answer teens’ questions. You also, may prefer to see your Pediatrician. You start having PAP smears (tests your cervix for changes caused by a virus that can result in cancer over a long period of time) at age 21. Many teens come in with their mothers for introduction and initial questions, then spend time talking to their physician alone. I ask for them to have the benefit of confidentiality, if they have future concerns. Mothers tend to be happy to allow their teens to establish an open relationship with a trusted Gynecologist. The procedure depends on the problem. You may only talk. You may require an exam. If you need an exam, the physician should explain all of the steps to you before performing the exam , and they should explain what they are doing during the exam.
I'm 16 and i'm kind of self conscious about my boobs because one is slightly (but rather noticeably if you know to look) smaller than the other. They're also kind of peaked (if that makes sense) like they're not the usual shape you see on most women which is a fuller, rounder shape. Will my boobs even out/become fuller as I get older, or not?
Breast asymmetry is very common. You can purchase breast pads (one choice “cleavage cupcakes”) to wear on the smaller side,generally placing beneath the breasts. When your breast development is complete, consider consulting a physician for evaluation and treatment if desired. You are likely in Tanner stage IV. See site above.
Hi :) I'm 15, and me and my boyfriend were discussing sex (we've both said we'll be ready at about 18, so there's no pressure :D ) and we got on to the topic of masturbation. He said that after ejaculation, he gets angry, moody and tired. Why is this and will this have a massive effect on our sex life?
Fatigue is very normal after sex in men. Anger is not. I would suggest that he discuss his reaction to ejaculation with his physician.
I am 15 and i got my first period when i was 13 and i got it in january and july of that year. When i was 14 i didnt get it at all. And 15 i got it in january. Should i be concerned or is it okay that my period is irregular?
Initial periods are frequently irregular. Given the length of time that your periods have been spaced out, I recommend that you see a Gynecologist to confirm that there is not something causing the irregularity. Many things can effect your hormonal balance, such as exercise and weight.
I'm pretty sure i have a microperforate hymen and/or maybe a massive fear of penetration... I'm not interested in becoming sexually active at the moment, but it does make me anxious that my body is a bit weird, especially as most girls use tampons and everytime I've tried its been a huge failure and I've got really fed up. Also, I do actually want to have sex one day but I would rather deal with this issue now, and not at that point in the future! How do people deal with this? :/ Thanks x
Have you tried the smallest tampons? When sitting on a toilet, the vagina angles slightly backwards. It is not straight in. Try changing the angle of the tampon. Also, always okay to see a Gynecologist. We can tell you if your hymen is too tight for a tampon. Some young women benefit from opening of their hymen by a Gynecologist to allow tampon insertion. If tampon use does not worry you, still don’t hesitate to see a Gynecologist to answer your question directly after examination-just by looking. You will probably feel relieved by their answer.
Who's Z? She's hilarous and L is very helpful. x] I thought it would feel awkward being on this blog but it's actually not at all and it's funny and yeah I think it might help a lot. o-o.. Do you guys answer questions often orrrrrrr are you not on very much? :l
I’m glad someone is amused by me. xD Uhh, it depends I check for questions every day, but I can’t answer all of them because some are all doctory. Oh, and I’m Z. <3 If you want to know what my personal blog is then ask off anon so I can answer privately~
P.S. From the girl with the poking ovary: i'm only 16, I've had irregular periods for about 3 years, probably because I'm only 115 at 5'5" because I'm recovering by myself from anorexia. My last was a little more than a month ago and i'm a virgin.
Recovering from anorexia may result in your cycles becoming ovulatory(normal, ovary releases egg and cycles more likely to be regular), which can cause intermittent ovarian pain. Keep on recovering!!!
Hi, I've been feeling a new sensation on my lower abdomen, about 4 inches to the left from my right hip bone. I suppose it's about where my ovary would be? I'm not completely sure. It's pretty sharp, like someone's jabbing me and trying to feel up my intestines. Pretty much you do to patients when examining them. I get it when I need to pee really bad, but also earlier when orgasming. I've had kidney/bladder problems before, mostly infections as a kid. I've only had it a couple days. Any ideas?
If the pain has only been present for a few days, I would think of a cyst or ovulation pain. Infection is always a possibility. If you do not feel better, you should be evaluated by a physician. Charting what makes it better or worse and paying attention to timing in relation to your period is helpful in figuring out the cause. Your family history may also provide clues particularly if the pain is persistent.
Is it normal to feel guilty/ashamed/regret after having sex?
Yes, many people feel regret after having sex. Sex results in temporary pleasure and if your partner is immature or rude or judgmental,you may feel bad about yourself. Certainly, if you or your partner confide in someone else-you are also subject to the opinions of others. I wish I could tell you that guilt or regret never occurred when you were an adult. The potential for self reproach continues. The best you can do is know your partner well. Make sure you like/respect one another and you are likely to feel better about the encounter. Also, always remember to protect yourself physically as well.
So this is kind of embarassing :P I recently noticed I've gotten a bunch of acne on my inner thighs and the backs of my thighs. And they're not just little blackheads, but big, painful zits. I've never her this before, just some ingrown pubic hairs, nothing else. I'm a 15 year old cis female, and I'm a virgin, so I'm pretty sure it's not an STD (unless i caught if from a toilet seat?) Is there any advice you can give me about getting rid of this? Thanks in advance :)
If you sweat, make sure you shower soon after and change into clean clothes. Dial soap in those areas will decrease bacteria on your skin. However, be sure to avoid Dial directly on genitals- can be irritating and will make you more likely to get yeast infections. Also, gentle use of exfoliating gloves, especially as you get the acne under control, will be helpful. Tonic 86 ,applied after bathing or showering, quickens skin turnover and will decrease acne and ingrown hairs. Tetracycline would be helpful if the acne lesions are deep.
I always feel so embaressed everytime my boyfriend and I goto have sex the condom just decides to not go on. It's not backwards and it's not like he's super huge, so what do I do? I usually don't get condoms with instructions since we can get them from our school for free? I looked online and I do everything properly to get it on for him but it gets stuck around the head, and he isn't uncircumsized. How do I fix this?
Have your boyfriend practice putting it on himself. Remember to leave room at the tip. You can also practice on a banana. I also wonder if they are lousy condoms and perhaps you should try condoms that you or your parents purchase.
I'm on birth control, I've been taking it for 6 months. This month wa going fine till this the beginning of the second week I started on the wrong day. Accidentally on saturday nd not sunday, I was going backwards for the week. So today I took my sunday labeled pill since I accidentally took the saturday pill on sunday. They're still the blue pills. I don't start the white ones till the last week. since I technically still took a blue pill am I still safe? I also had sex today.
If you took an active pill in place of an active pill, you should be fine. It sounds like you are on a pill type that the first 3 weeks are the active pills and are all the same.
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What was your first time like? My boyfriend and I have talked about having sex but we're taking our time, he doesn't want to rush me. So i was wondering does it actually hurt as much as people say it does?
Yes, it does hurt. I am glad your boyfriend is not pushing you. If you are not ready, sex can emotionally harm you. I was date raped and blamed myself for decades. A planned experience with someone you love and who loves you will be a much better experience. Remember to go in for initiation of contraception and use condoms. If you do not feel ready, wait. Take care.
Protect yourself! Protect yourself from unintended pregnancy and from sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s are scary ladies). Abstinence is safest (Yes, but WE’RE TEENAGERS WE WANT TO EXPLORE). When you feel you are ready for sexual contact, know your partner and be prepared. Remember, boys will be boys(They smell yummy)!!! They will be pushy. They will offer to “pull out(HEHEHE).” Not good enough!!!!! They don’t carry the baby or the stigma. Talk with an adult if possible (Or research on the internet, talking to an adult can be awkward >_<). If you do not have an adult you can talk to, go to Planned Parenthood. Be aware of what you are truly getting into (Sexy-time isn’t just sexy-time, there can be huge consequences so go out and buy condoms! :D). Protect yourself from pregnancy with the help of a healthcare professional—they will help you decide which birth control method is best for you. Also, always use condoms! A condom (other than abstinence), is your best line of defense against infections. Don’t trust the condom that has been in the boy’s wallet for years (Ewiee..). Buy your own to know it is not aged and possibly useless.
Don’t be shy. Touch yourself (DO IT, it feels good.:D No shame in pleasure!). Masturbation is a way to relieve sexual tension safely. You also learn what pleases you, which is helpful in future relationships(If you ever get into a relationship and the person you are sleeping with is terrible in bed, you still have your hand! :3). Remember, guys will truly say anything to get into your pants. They will feel great about their conquest and often brag to others. You will very likely feel bad about yourself ( And cry, eat chocolate, and watch The Notebook). No one needs that bull!!! Some young men are tender(hehe)-hearted and kind. They are the exceptions(YOU ARE THE ONLY EXCEPTION~). You too have erectile tissue that becomes engorged when you are excited (Yes girls, you heard her right! We have lady boners! :D). Your clitoris is the most sensitive area of your genitals (The clitoris is also the only part of the human body that was made solely for pleasure). By stimulating the clitoris, or area next to it, with clean hands or a clitoral stimulator-you can learn to have an orgasm( It’s like chocolate on steroids). Visualize something or someone you think is sexy (Johnny Depp, Keira Knightly, Marilyn Manson…). Much of the ability to have an orgasm is in your mind and requires relaxation and the ability to let go (Light some candles, just make sure not to burn the house down). For most of us, learning is involved. Clitoral stimulation is required for most women. Less than half of us have orgasms with intercourse unless clitoral stimulation is involved (Unless you are having sex with a girl, GIRLS GET IT DONE). Do yourself a favor and figure out what works for you. (Enjoy your body, it’s a fiesta, it deserves attention and pleasure!)
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